Driving in a  Canadian winter is similar to arriving here on Earth with the traumas of generations before us.  

I recently had to head out on a snowy, wintery day here in Canada, and as I drove along the nearly-empty streets, I realized that winter driving is quite comparable to the traumas that we carry in our lives.

You see, I started out that morning, looking outside, and realizing I would have to go out and clear my vehicle off in order to head out.   I stepped outside, grabbed my snow brush and started to clear the van.   Some spots are too high for my short body, but I did the best I could.   When the van was warmed up, I headed out on snow covered roads, going slow, and navigating new paths as no other vehicles had driven on them.

As I got to more popular roads, I was able to follow the path of tires that had already driven down the road.  The snow was still coming quite quickly, and parts of my van were getting covered again.   I drove slowly, as did the other vehicles around me.   We were all hyper aware of the road conditions, and the fear that we were all driving in.  Better to be safe than sorry.   There was no rage or anger at the slowness of the drive, nor were we pushing to get one another out of the way.   We just travelled together, in solidarity, knowing that it was just as nerving for the drivers next to us, as it was for ourselves.

This got my mind to thinking.

Trauma is very similar.

Sometimes we get our vessel and it has trauma on it.  We do our best to clear all of the trauma before we head out on the journey called life.   Sometimes we go down a path to clear the trauma that has been laid before us, and since no one has ventured that path prior to us, the path is harder to navigate, and you need to slow down to get through it.

As you get on the journey with others, you may begin to notice that some of the trauma has melted away because someone has gone down that path already.   You are still aware that trauma has happened, and yet you slow down, cautious that if you go too fast, you may spin out of control.   You are also aware that those around you are carrying trauma, and navigating the path just as you are.   You aren’t angry at the path that they are taking, you hold space for them as they go through the same pains that the trauma brings up.

Every once in awhile, someone may speed past you, thinking they’ve got this trauma by the nails; and yet, later, you see them in the ditch, more trauma piled on than what they had before.   You may shake your head, you may stop to help.   It’s totally up to you, and no harm is done with either choice.

Eventually though, as more and more navigate the path of the traumas on the road ahead of them, the traumas melt away.   Eventually a plow will come and clear them, or the heat from the tires will eliminate the cause.   But first, you have to drive the course, slowing down, being aware, taking a deep breath and keeping your eyes on the path ahead of you.

Do it with love.

Until next time,


Catherine Graham is an intuitive, healer, and owner of Journey Healers. Catherine is also a mom of 7, and two granddaughters. She has been working with Spirit since 2004. Any comments or questions can be emailed to her at Catherine@journeyhealers.com